SORRY, YOUR BOOTSTRAPS WON'T SAVE YOU: A GUIDE TO MUTUAL AID IN THE AGE OF BULLSHIT
The system isn't failing us - it's fucking us over exactly as planned. But we're building something better, and we need your help to grow it.
WHILE BILLIONAIRES play space race with dick-measuring rockets and politicians debate which humans deserve to live, we peasants need to quietly build power.
And unlike the ruling class’ power — built on exploitation and maintained through violence — ours grows through the radical act of *checks notes* giving a fuck about each other. Shocking, I know.
Every meal shared.
Every rent payment covered.
Every kid watched so a parent can work.
Every insulin dose divided.
Every safe house opened.
Every skill taught.
Every resource redistributed.
That’s our power.
Strength with every connection. Resilience with every exchange.
So while they’re busy crafting the perfect tweet about their latest tax-deductible donation, we need to be building something they can’t control, can’t co-opt, and can’t stop.
Welcome to your collective guide to finding or building mutual aid networks in your community — and a living document where people can share their resources. Because we’re stronger together, and, well, the only thing currently trickling down from the top is pure, unfiltered fuckery.
Remember 2020 when COVID hit and suddenly everyone discovered that hey, maybe we should check on our neighbors and their cat, Lord Bootstraps? The system didn’t just fail during COVID — it showed its whole ass (and kept showing it, and showing it, and showing it). And guess who kept people alive? Certainly not the billionaires in their bunkers.
Well folks, this concept wasn’t new. Marginalized communities have been doing this forever because they had to. Because when the system fails — and oh boy, how spectacularly they’re failing — communities either step up or people die.
And right now? With healthcare costs sending people to GoFundMe, ICE terrorizing communities, executive orders targeting trans kids and immigrant families, and half our neighbors one missed paycheck away from eviction? The system isn’t just failing — it’s excelling at the very violent fuckery for which it was originally designed.
Mutual aid isn’t about charity. Fuck charity. Charity is rich people deciding who deserves to eat. Charity is tax write-offs and galas and *awareness campaigns* while people ration insulin.
Mutual aid is different. It’s horizontal, not hierarchical. It’s the old “I’ve got you today, you’ve got me tomorrow.” It’s understanding that we’re all one medical bill away from disaster, and building networks of support before we need them.
Think Underground Railroad, not United Way. Think Black Panthers feeding kids while the FBI lost their minds. Think ACT UP creating healthcare networks while Reagan twiddled his thumbs. Think immigrant communities protecting each other while ICE plays their violent games.
Every community has its quiet heroes. The grandma who always has extra food. The teacher who *forgets* to check documentation. The nurse who knows which clinics don’t ask questions.
Find them. Support them. Consistently.
Search “[your area] mutual aid” (obvious but effective)
Hit up local food banks/shelters (they know where help happens)
Check activist spaces and community centers
Ask marginalized communities (they’ve been running these networks forever)
Search community fridges near you
Follow local advocacy groups on social.
(Red flags: Anyone who wants your SSN, groups more interested in social media than actual work, savior complexes in designer shoes 🚩)
Remember: With mutual aid every dollar goes straight to need. No CEO bonuses, no overhead, no bullshit fundraising galas where rich idiots pretend to care about poverty over $1000 plates. Just fed kids, paid bills, supported communities.
And puh-lease check any savior complexes at the door. This isn’t your chance to be the main character in someone else’s story. This isn’t about you.
So you’ve looked and can’t find mutual aid in your area? Cool, cool . . . guess we’ll just let capitalism win.
KIDDING.
Get your ass back here. If you can’t find it, you’re about to start it! And before you say “but I don’t know how — and did they really call the cat Lord Bootstraps?” — neither did anyone else at first. The beauty of mutual aid is that it starts with one person giving enough of a fuck to try.
So consider this your invitation to the mutual aid party. Here’s your “DIY Revolution Starter Pack” so you can give a fuck and start causing good trouble in your neighborhood . . .
Game plan:
1. Map your neighborhood
Who needs what?
Who’s got skills? (Everyone’s got something)
Who’s got resources? (Time counts as much as money)
What gaps need filling?
2. Start small, think big
Maybe it’s just a group chat for childcare
Could be a food-sharing network (community fridges, etc)
Skill exchanges (you fix computers, she does taxes)
Resource pooling (tools, cars, spare rooms)
3. Build trust
Show up consistently
Do what you say you’ll do
Share resources, not judgment
Listen more than you talk
4. Keep it simple
Document everything (but protect privacy)
Make it easy to join, easy to leave
Good systems outlast charismatic members
Build redundancy (because burnout is real)
If you’ve got privilege — hint: if you’re reading this while deciding between oat milk or almond milk in your latte, then yeah, you do — use it like a bulletproof vest for others. That cop’s less likely to hassle the food distribution if you’re standing there in your wine-mom athleisure or golf-dad quarter-zip. That landlord might think twice about evicting someone if you’re the one making noise about it.
Your comfort zone? Yeah, that’s now your shield for others. Here’s how to use it (without accidentally becoming Gentrification Gary or Surveillance Sally):
Communication channels:
Signal groups (encrypted, easy delete)
Local Discord servers
Neighborhood pods
Physical bulletin boards (old school works)
Resource distribution:
Central collection points
No-questions-asked pickup spots
Delivery networks for mobility issues
Clear systems for requests
Money handling:
Cash is king
Crowdfund platforms take cuts
Consider local credit unions
Track everything, share reports
Security basics:
The best mutual aid networks are like fight club — the first rule is we don’t talk about who needs what
No centralized databases
Share protocols, not personal info
Time to show your cards, friends.
Got a mutual aid network?
Know someone who does?
Working on starting one?
Drop your info below. But remember — this isn’t LinkedIn, and we’re not here to build your personal brand. Share only what people need to know to find help or give it:
Who you are (keep it simple)
What you offer
Area served
How to connect
Verification links (because internet)
Share what you’ve got. Find what you need. Build what’s missing.
And remember: While they’re busy measuring their knob-rockets they’re counting on us staying isolated, desperate, and scared.
But we’ve got something better than rockets or galas or empty tweets. We’ve got each other. And that’s the one thing those fuckers can’t buy.
I will start off the resource section!
Who: Fridge Haven (CT)
What: They need grocery donations, grab and go meals, and volunteers to help
Drop off location: Varick AME Church, 242 Dixwell Ave, New Haven CT
Area served: New Haven Connecticut area
How to connect: Renee at 203-489-9874 or Becky at 203-214-0287
Verification links: www.mealtrain.com/trains/2e48lq and www.instagram.com/fridgehaven/
Who: Christina
What: no buy store (accepting donations of clothes, tools, toys, houseware, etc), skill sharing events (healthy living, cooking, etc), educational support (psychology, health, navigating healthcare system), and fund raising
Where: Bonne Terre, Missouri (and surrounding rural towns like Park Hills, Desloge, Farmington, etc)
How to contact: here (DM) or at cnwhite114@gmail.com